Raising children- do’s and don’ts

Every parent seeks for the better raise of their child so that it can be strong and ready to face all life situations.  For starters, it is important to remember that each child is an individual and so is each relationship between parent and child. With this being said, it does not make sense to blindly keep up with some standard rules and tips. But there are some “rules” that every parent who cares about a good relationship with the child ought to abide by.

Don’ts

To begin with there is our top list of raising a child.

1. Do not fulfill your child’s every wish

Do not fulfill your child’s every wish, because if you do that, you will raise your child in the belief that the whole world revolves around him, which is not good.

2. Do not be entertained by inappropriate things

When your child pronounce a curse or a bad word, do not show that it amuses you, because if you laugh at that, a child will think that’s what a fun, not inappropriate.

3. Do not always clean his mess

Do not always clean up your child’s mess, and free the child from his obligations.

4. Do not argue in front of your child

Do not argue in front of your child, because if you’re frequently doing it, your child will think that arguing is a form of normal and healthy communication.

5. Do not give money

Do not give your child money each time he/she wants or allow him/her to spend as he/she pleases. By doing so, your children will grow up not appreciating the value of money.

6. Do not grant his eating wishes

Do not fulfill his every wish when it comes to food and drink.

7. Do not always be on “his side”

Do not always be on the child’s “side” when someone attacks him/her, weather it is a teacher, professor… In this way, you are raising the false belief that it must always be right.

 8. Do not blame yourself

When your child gets into any trouble, do not blame yourself in front of him/her and the others, because in this way your child will not learn any responsibility.

 9. Do not spank your child!

Spanking or hitting the only send a message that you probably never would’ve wanted to instill. Our advice is that if you want to have the authority over the child, let it be based on love, not fear.

Do’s

1. Respect your child!

No matter how small your child is, it still has its own personality, its own interests and desires. Although small, it is also a human being, and just like all of us, requests loving relationship and respect. This does not mean that the child should meet all your needs, but the child should be allowed to express his or her wishes.

Never ridicule a child, or vilify his fears or doubts, do not insult him and do not ever forget that this little creature does not have its own integrity, which you nor anyone else should distort.

2.  Play with your child  

The child needs to spend this time out in the game with you. It does not need to take hours, experts say that is enough and a half hours a day, but it must be quality time in which you will not interrupt the ringing of the phone and during which you will perform some other tasks.

3. Communicate with your child.

It is important that parents always show a genuine interest in what the child is doing! Talk about his thoughts, feelings and daily life. Talk to him  about what you were doing, what you like or do not like … A small child learn verbally expressing emotions so later on it could accurately define their emotions and learn how to handle them properly.

Explain all and talk with the child from an early age, and do not forget, when one child begins to talk, you need to know to listen.

 4. Always try to be honest with your child.

Pay attention to how a child almost instinctively feels when their parents are lying. Try to avoid such a relationship and from the beginning try to be as honest with the child. Speak to him the truth about important events, changes and the like, no matter how tricky questions could be because the child instinctively feels when you are holding something back, but does not know to figure out and explain what is happening. Parental obligation is to tell the child the truth in understandable way to him, with facts and without exaggerating the details.

5. Do not forget to praise your child when it deserves!

Praise is far more effective than punishment, and was demonstrated by the fact that children are prone to repeating those behaviors that are rewarded, even if it is only in the form of praise. Try to avoid punishment and attention to be given to unwanted behaviors, but to fully focus on the positive things that the child makes.

At the end of each day, try to remember at least one of the good things your child has done that day, and praise him for it, and tell him how proud you are of him.

 6. Always trust your parental instincts

In situations when your instinct tells you that your child is sick, but everyone around you claims that there is no room for panic. Do not be distracted. Parents know what is best for their child and can sense when something is wrong.

7. Be consistent.

This is not exactly always easy, but it is really cost-effective in the long run. Most parents tend to go by the line of the least resistance to solve a specific problem in the short term but what needs to be done is to note that there will be some conflict situations, just ask yourself whether you will eventually give in under pressure. If you like, then it is better to give in immediately. Otherwise, you will send a message to the child will always eventually change his decision in his favor, if it is a little effort, and thus lose your credibility.

 8. Always make a child’s safety in the first place!

If you have a small child crawling or a toddler, be sure to protect all sockets, sharp edges, remove all dangerous things out of reach. Children of all ages are always driving in the appropriate car seat or bigger children are always properly secured. From an early age they learn how to cross the road should cross only at the crosswalk and when it was turned on the green light at traffic lights, and the younger children learn that you, as you walk along the road, always holding hands.

9. Watch your child’s diet.

It is desirable to strive for a balanced diet, avoid junk food and sweets moderately dose. Thus, the child’s menu should be based on fruits, vegetables, grains, dairy products, fish or meat, and foods such as pate, sausage, snack foods, fried foods and fast food Children should be completely avoid.

If your child still occasionally eats junk food try to make it to minimize. Do not forget that the eating habits are formed in early childhood, and that precisely those poor, acquired at an early age, the leading cause of death from cardiovascular diseases, which are often closely related exactly with the bad and unhealthy diet. Give your child the very beginning, an opportunity to be healthy and to experience old age.

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