Children show different types of behavior, such as throwing themselves on the floor, screaming, crying with breath holding and the like. Such behaviors are called outbursts of anger or tantrums. Many children have orderly development outbursts. Some research suggests that as many as 91 percent of children over a period of 30-36 months manifest this kind of behavior. Causes of such outbursts are numerous, and the most common are:
- Temper (some children more easily due to a state of frustration and harder to cope with frustration)
- Stress, hunger, fatigue, over-stimulating environment sensory
- Emotional trigger
When a child has an outburst of rage and anger, it is unlikely that they will not listen if a parent tries to rationally explain the situation. Also, they usually will negatively react to shouting or threats.
How to deal with tantrum?
One of the ways of dealing with this kind of child behavior is to prevent the occurrence of tantrums. These are some of the useful strategies:
Ensure that tantrums are not the way a child attracts attention.
A child simply loves the attention, and will try having the attention in any way, even if that is a negative way. Numerous studies have shown that the percentage of the child’s attention led by bad behavior encourages this kind of behavior. It is necessary to have a habit that does the opposite. Praise the child when the child is expressing the positive behavior. Even positive feedback on what works when good behavior reduces the possibility of falling into this undesirable form of behavior.
Divert the attention
Use a short attention span of a child by trying to divert attention away from the facility or activity that causes frustration on something else.
Give the child control over smaller things
This fulfills his need for independence. Ask the child if he wants to drink tea or juice, whether he wants to play with a toy car or a ball
Be familiar with your child’s capabilities and limitations
Make sure to pay attention to child’s needs and limitations. Do not take him in the cinema if the child is too tired.
Allow the child a sense of success in the game and the new tasks in accordance with the age and capabilities. For tasks to start from the simplest and gradually introduce somewhat more complicated games and tasks. Do not give your child unrealistic tasks, as the child fails to accomplish these tasks, they will feel angry, and thus you provoke the occurrence of tantrums.
Remove “the forbidden” items
Remove or put out of reach the items that a child should not be touching in order to to turn off the possibility of conflicts over these things.
Reconsider the child’s wishes
Reconsider the requests that your child asks before you dispose those requests. Think of whether what they are asking is truly outrageous? If a child does not ask too much, you should fulfill some of the child’s wishes.
If the behavior problem becomes frequent, then what happens immediately before (the trigger) and immediately after (reaction temperature) this behavior is what causes the repetition of the behavior. It is therefore important to identify and analyze what happens before and after the behavior, especially if the behavior is repeated.